Tip #02: I Keep Judging Myself!

by Rick Wilkes, Thriving Now, LLC

What do you do if your self-judgment gets in the way of tapping? It isn’t fun to do something when you are constantly feeling criticized!

There is no judge here. No one is grading you. If you are grading you, now is a great time to learn to be gentle with yourself. You can’t get it wrong! Your technique will become more to your liking over time and with practice. So sit back and enjoy the process, both the learning and the feelings.

And if that seems as possible as flying to the moon, tap with whatever angry, judgmental thoughts come into your head. Tap about your discouragement that nothing has worked. Tap with your feelings that you will never get it right. Tap with your belief that, “This won’t work, because nothing ever works for me… even though it works for everybody else!”

Tap with whatever words show up. Tap with whatever noises show up. Or, Tap in silent fuming. Tap in silent distress.

You may feel your faults and shame and guilt and failures make you unredeemable… make it impossible for you to heal or get this right. But you cannot say the wrong things when you tap. You cannot say the wrong things in prayer. And if a part of you finds it hard to say, “I deeply and completely accept myself” then try “I am in the process of learning to love and accept myself”. Tap on the Karate Chop point:

“Even though I feel worthless sometimes, I am in the process of deeply and completely accepting myself anyway.”

“Even though anyone who accepts me just doesn’t know me, I am deeply and completely accepted.”

“Even though I feel so WRONG, I choose to know… somewhere inside me… some place still clean and untouched by pain… that I am deeply and completely accepted.”

Then Tap:

Top of the Head: “I have felt so wrong.”
Eyebrow: “I have failed at times.”
Side of the Eye: “I have been guilty.”
Under the Eye: “I have done wrong.”
Under the Nose: “I have been wronged.”
Chin: “I have felt wrong”.
Collarbone: “I have known shame.”
Under the Arm: “And I am sorry.”

Top of the Head: “It is time for me to heal.”
Eyebrow: “I accept my feelings.”
Side of the Eye: “I choose to heal.”
Under the Eye: “I’m okay.”
Under the Nose: “I’m feeling better.”
Chin: “I am taking positive steps.”
Collarbone: “I am relaxing.”
Under the Arm: “I am finding myself.”
Top of the Head: “And I deeply and completely accept myself. No matter what.”